Blake Lively recently talked about one word she will never call either of her daughters, James and Ines. It’s the word “bossy,” and here’s why.
“We’ve joked that my daughter is bossy,” Lively explained in an interview. “But my husband said, ‘I don’t ever want to use that word again. You’ve never heard a man called bossy.’” Well said. A pushy male businessman or a powerful male CEO would never be called bossy by another man or woman, not in a million years. So why is it a word we reserve exclusively for girls and women? “There would never be any negative connotation for a man being a boss,” Lively said, “So to add a negative connotation on a woman being bossy? It’s belittling. And it doesn’t encourage them to be a boss.”
Lively brings up a Sarah Silverman quote to explain other thoughts she has on parenting her little girls. Silverman once said, “Don’t tell girls they can be anything they want when they grow up. Because it would have never occurred to them that they couldn’t.” The gorgeous new mother, Lively, uses the quote as a reference when talking about her daughter. She feels that girls are already born thinking they can do anything, so if you tell them, “You can do anything,” it makes them question…”Well, when could I not?”
“There’s nothing I can teach my daughter. She already has all of it. The only thing I can do is protect what she already feels,” Lively said, adding, “I do know that I have to watch her and listen to her and not project any of my own insecurities or struggles on her.”
And the parenting gold medal of the year goes to…Blake and Ryan! Way to keep the feminism game strong.